All posts tagged 30 days of kink

30 Days of Kink: The Penultimate Post

30 Days of Kink (in this case several days crammed into a post ‘cuz this isn’t tumblr) is drawing to a close. The last challenge is to pick your own topic, but this time they asked another question about my identity. Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What significance does your attire have to […]

30 Day of Kink: BDSM Fantasy VS Real Life

30 Days of Kink Continues, as the blogging exercise draws to a close! These aren’t questions that I think that deserve their own blog post, but as this exercise is almost done I thought I’d wrap them all up in one shot. Day 25: How open are you about your kinks? Pretty open actually, allowing for […]

30 Days of Kink: BDSM Relationships?

Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy?  How does it differ from a vanilla relationship? Although ‘vanilla’ relationships are already hampered by problems like differing base expectations, kinky relationships don’t even have the weight of cultural tradition to turn to. Pretty much all the established tropes and cliches in […]

30 Days of Kink: Happy and Curious!

30 days of kink is almost finished up, especially with me cramming multiple days in a go. Thankfully, after several days asking me to whine, these few days are all about good things and stuff I like again. Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life?  If so, what are they? Uh, unexpected? […]

30 Days of Kink: The Things That Make Us Grumpy

30 days of kink continues with a composition of days 16, 17 and 18, a chance to talk about the things that irratate, offend or are just plain irksome. And you know I like to grumble! Day 16: What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you […]

30 Days Of Kink: The Whys, The Whats and the Maybes

Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you?  Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to? It’s my sexuality, and I find myself repeating this a lot. That being said, kink-as-a-set-of-expectations provides a codified structure to try to qualify and quantify and abstract emotional concept and a […]

30 days of kink: Hard limits, ethics and funny stuff.

30 days of kink continues with a bunch of unrelated questions- from super serious limits to funny anecdotes. Day 10: What are your hard limits? I don’t want to permanently harm anyone. I also don’t want to involve poo, children or animals. I also don’t want to be outed or out anyone, which limits the […]

30 days of kink: days 6, 7, 8 & 9 Media sharing time!

30 days of kink continues with a look at some of the things that inspire us- fantasies, toys, pictures and songs. Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy. I wish I had something and interesting and illustrative as Dumb Domme’s conveyor belt. Possibly for me the fantasies of being a man raping another man, […]

30 days of kink: Days 3, 4 & 5 Okay, how did you get started in the kink stuff?

Once again I’m doing 30 days of kink in a multi-day jam together. Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky? The question here is not as much how I discovered kink as much as that learned I was part of a sexual minority of any kind, or what the words for my kinks […]

30 days of kink: Day 1 & 2 – Who are you anyway and what do you like?

Because the 30 days of kink meme was created for tumblr I’m going to do my 30 days with several days to a post. Day 1: Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us. I am a dominant […]