Who is Miss Pearl / Pearl O’Leslie?

I’m a Canadian female dominant. I write this stuff, participate in a bunch of online communities as well as real life and sometimes I cross post it places like literotica or fetlife. I am not a professional dominant, the only thing you can hire me to do is write for you. Generally I write what I know, what I like, or occasionally what I’ve researched.

You can reach me more directly via [email protected] or go here and ask me a question through our easy contact form.

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FAQ

How long have you been a dom?

For me, the official label didn’t come until my early twenties, when I was looking at identity issues in kink. Basically Bitchy Jones and a question on metafilter about porn for female dominants provided a mutual catalyst to realize this descriptor fit best.

In practice, I was a kinky child, in the way that your games as a kid often reflect how you will develop, and when I started dating in high school, light kink play and exchanging fantasies with my then boyfriend was part of it. In practice I am not some experienced leather family member. I like what I get up to, and I’ve been getting up to it in real life since I was 16, but I don’t take my decade of experience seriously.

Are you looking for subs/slaves (or in other words me?!)

This one’s actually a tough one regardless of whether or not I actively am. I think, for me, courtship has to be a mutual process and even at the best of times, looking for a guy is something I personally prefer to do a lot of the the leg work on. I do a reverse friendzone, that I prefer to get to know the guy to see if I have chemistry, as friends, before I decide to glomph on.  Aggressive courtship from men and “giving people a chance” never really works for me.

I am fairly promiscuous about play, in person, with my friend group. I take owner/property fairly seriously beyond that, as a thing like having someone as a boyfriend.  So in brief, a random dude looking to be enslaved is not going to work out same as if a random guy on the street asks me to marry him. If I can’t love you at least in some capacity I can’t keep you.

Do you ever sub?

I tried it more formally when I was younger, in the name of experimentation, but I’m missing that aspect of my personality. It doesn’t make me happy, not the way that owning someone does. I am, in full self description a Dominant Sadomasochist. I like kinky sex games that are ouchy for me. I like looking after people. But the idea of being owned, for me is just not interesting.

Do you write for a living?

Yes. If you want me to write for you there’s even a specialized page for that purpose!

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