All posts for the month June, 2014

14 Over Used Topics On BDSM Forums

While BDSM forums often provide a great way to talk to other kinky people and get a reality check or a sympathetic ear to your kinky interests and queries, you know you have encountered these conversations before. Whether it’s fetlife, /r/BDSMcommunity, the bright young things on 4chan’s d board, an international non-english community, or some other hidden pocket […]

30 days of kink: Days 3, 4 & 5 Okay, how did you get started in the kink stuff?

Once again I’m doing 30 days of kink in a multi-day jam together. Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky? The question here is not as much how I discovered kink as much as that learned I was part of a sexual minority of any kind, or what the words for my kinks […]

30 days of kink: Day 1 & 2 – Who are you anyway and what do you like?

Because the 30 days of kink meme was created for tumblr I’m going to do my 30 days with several days to a post. Day 1: Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us. I am a dominant […]

30 Days of Kink: Me Too!

There’s a blog meme running around right now, which is essentially a big list of writing prompts called “30 days of kink”. It seems to originate over at Queerkink, but Rayne of Insatiable Desire has the complete list right here. So, why the heck not? I’ll give it a shot! Day 1: Dom, sub, switch?  What […]

A General Introduction To Rape Fantasies

He felt utterly helpless. Her hands went where they wanted, along his side, across his thigh, to his hip. She let one linger on his throat, index finger and thumb pinching, scary as she slid just the tips of two fingers past his lips, penetrating him and showing him he didn’t even have the choice […]

Lifestyle VS Pro and The Male Sub Loot Grab

So I was recently reading the advice of the blogger Cara Sutra, on the difference between professional and lifestyle dominants. And I’m sorry, she got it wrong. Cara is an experienced and award winning sex journalist and I have nothing personally against her, but this post is rife with errors and the sort of general […]

When Kink Limits Change & More Caretaking Challenges

I encountered a really tough problem recently on reddit: My sub’s ingratitude is destroying our relationship. I took him under my wing. When I met him, he was another college drop-out with no body to speak of. Thanks to my guidance, he now has a good job, goes to gym regularly and looks his best. […]