This is a bad book. It gets a lot wrong, wastes a lot of the reader’s time doing it. I’m going to be charitable and suggest that Masters is expressing himself poorly and would never endorse violations of consent. However, based on how this is written, the advice contained within has no place in a contemporary BDSM scene. It’s a pity because there aren’t really much in the way of (focused) resources about the behaviours you can use to compliment and express power dynamics. It mistakes talking a lot for making an argument and has enough problematic suggestions that it has no place in any kink curriculum.
So if you want to read it, basically imagine you were going to do a comedy skit about the ponderous True Dom you may have had the misfortune to meet at a munch, and expect a combination of tedium and terrible advice.
[Before I go any further, it’s worth noting that everything I stand for is pretty much diametrically opposite to this guy’s approach in this book. I can’t actively claim that Peter Masters is a bad person with any confidence, so if you are the author rest assured that I’m the kind of TNG/18-35 tumblr born brat that’s probably ruining kink and my shit probably looks just as appalling to you. That being said you are wrong about things with this book. WRONG.]
Here’s the highlights of the yuck:
- D/s is only 24/7 and that’s what makes it distinct from topping & bottoming.
- There’s no such thing as a switch and no room for them.
- The best way to approach and gain submission is to start ordering subs around at a party.
- Negotiation? What negotiation?
- Subs are slightly brain dead, but it’s hard(er) to control a sub who is a good communicator.
- Safewords are a barrier to D/s & here’s how to ignore/avoid them.
- Lots of unsubstantiated pop psych.
- Gender archetype Warrior/Mother examples without much examination of where they might come from.