BDSM Advice and How Tos For The New And Curious

BDSM Advice For Female Dominants

Whether learning the ropes is literal or figurative, every person has to start somewhere. Keep in mind I am not a certified sex educator, medical professional, or anything other than a dominant with a platform. All I can tell you is what works for me, so take all BDSM advice contained here with that caveat.

• 15 Things I Wish I’d Known As A New Femdom
• Femdom Stuff to Make Him Do While You Figure Things Out

BDSM Advice For Submissives (Mostly Oriented Towards F/m)

Those helpful articles written to help subs figure out how to get what they want.

• How To Find A Domme
• 33 Things Every Submissive Man Should Know
• 10 Links to Help You Find A Mistress
• The Big Mistake Even Good Submissive Men Make When Looking For A Femdom
• How to Meet and Get Along With Dominant Women
• Quick N’ Dirty Kink Guide for Sub Men

Reader Letters

Questions you asked and I did my best to answer. Often highly specific scenarios.

General BDSM Advice

BDSM advice that applies to everyone, for getting about the scene, for talking with people about your kinks and getting stuff done.

• Hosting a Munch
• How to Give a Barehanded Spanking

Frequently Asked Beginner Questions

BDSM advice for the absolute novice, because everyone has to start somewhere.

• FAbQ: Should You “Train” With Someone?
• FAbQ: Very Basic BDSM Safety
• FAbQ: What Is a Dominant or Submissive and How Do I Know What I Am?
• FAbQ: The Utter Basic BDSM & Kink Scene Vocabulary For Getting Out and About